If I asked you to define the word “patient,” what would you say? Merriam-Webster defines being patient as “bearing pains or trials calmly or without complaint.”
When I consider the word “patient” through a Gospel lens, I consider the need for us to trust in God’s perfect plan and timing. The need for us to wait patiently on the Lord and rely on Him to sustain us.
There’s something about the saying, “God’s timing is perfect,” that comes across as a cheesy cliche, perhaps because it seems overused. Perhaps because our flesh nature is tempted to believe this isn’t true.
All things considered, I would argue we can’t hear this timeless truth enough.
The temptation to do things our own way
Oftentimes, we’re tempted to take the pen in our hands and write our own story. We get tired of the waiting and feel as if we’re ready—or ready “enough”—to speed things along. Learning how to be patient is a process filled with some necessary pruning, but the outcome–the sanctification–is always worth it.
Learning how to be patient is one thing. Actively being patient within the heart of your marriage, however, can be quite the challenge.
My husband, Michael, does a great job of this. He’s quite possibly the most laid-back person I know. Me, on the other hand? Not so much.
The need for patience in marriage
Patience is required of us in many ways. Whether it’s how we communicate with our spouse or whether we’re waiting alongside our spouse for something to take place, we must always first look to God. As God is patient with us, we must seek to point one another to Him as we seek to be patient ourselves. If we rush into things, we’re sure to become blinded by our sins and miss out on the blessings at hand.
Truths to help you be patient in your marriage
With that in mind, I would love to share bible verses about patience that contain truth and encouragement regarding patience that I have learned throughout the course of my marriage.
A patience that honors God is impossible without first looking to Him.
God’s plan can’t be thwarted.
We’re tempted to believe that we can “hurry God along” to bring about what He has set in motion. We believe we know better than God, but that’s simply not true. Don’t just take my word for it—look at His Word:
View your spouse through the lens of Christ.
The nature of our flesh doesn’t like this. It craves instant gratification, no matter what it takes to receive it. I don’t know about you, but there have been many–too many–moments where I have snapped at my husband for this reason.
When we begin to surrender our restless, selfish ways into the arms of our steadfast, sufficient Savior, something beautiful takes place; the scales are removed from our eyes, and we start to view ourselves and our spouses through His lens. This is a lens that yields patience.
Finally, consider how the Father looks at us!
God looks at us through the lens of Christ’s imputed righteousness–that is, through the lens of what Christ accomplished on the cross.
My dear sister, don’t forget that God is working in both you and your spouse. In Christ, we’re all in the process of being sanctified. For all who are in Christ are equally in need of and dependent on Him.
A prayer for patience
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